Perfect Vulnerability

Perfect Vulnerability

· feeling open to the elements     · exposed
· susceptibility   · defenseless

OUTER: Boots by Margiela, shirtdress by Stephanie O Designs, jewelry by Moxxe Designs.
INNER: It is safe to reveal what is in my heart.

Use may cause heartfelt disclosure and willingness to step onto a stage.


This outfit represents feelings of security and vulnerability. It has a traditional form, but playfully reveals a
sense of 
openness and authenticity.

You may (or may not) have noticed a break in my blog posting in the past couple of weeks. I took a week off to travel for Thanksgiving, but upon returning found myself utterly consumed and sick over preparing for a TEDx Malibu talk. It became a bit of a beast. I was thrilled to have the opportunity, but as the date got closer I found myself writing and rewriting my speech. The knots in my back tightened as the realization that this speech would live for eternity on the Internet sunk in. I wondered if there was real value in what I wanted to speak about, or if it was too simple. When it comes to an outfit, I’m always a fan of the less-is-more approach, but I also know how hard simplicity can be to pull off (in design and in all areas of life). When I compared my speech to some of the TED talks I’ve seen over the years, I couldn’t help but not feel good enough. What if I went blank? What if people hated it? What if trolls posted negative comments? I wanted to cry. I wanted to cancel.

I’m a fan of all things Maison Martin Margiela, especially these subtle, sexy ankle boots. The flesh tone
extends the leg while the boot provides stability and security. The low heel is effortlessly wearable and
the black back adds an 
unexpected “wow” factor.

After days of torment, I finally experienced peace. I accepted that I might fail, fall apart on stage, and people might not like my talk—or me. I moved through the fear of being exposed and stripped off my other fears, too. I gave up notions of delivering a “perfect” speech and stopped trying to over-intellectualize my words. I’m not a scholar; I’m a style editor. I’m not a genius, but my perspective has value. It took me a bit, but I was able to step into my own shoes and deliver the message that’s in my heart. Instead of trying to be brave, I went for being perfectly vulnerable. I read once that perfect vulnerability is perfect protection. Here is a fantastic TEDx talk on “The Power of Vulnerability” given by Brené Brown.

Moxxe jewelry is reminiscent of another era. Designer Rachel Katz is inspired by her Mother’s and
Grandmother’s vintage jewelry 
collection. These bold pieces add a bit of glamour to a classic look

I’m happy to say that I did it! I stumbled a couple of times and two of my slides somehow flipped out of order, but I didn’t let those bumps in the road stop me. I’m not sure if it was great, but I’m sure relieved it’s over! (Relieved giggle emoticon.) Interestingly, I felt surprisingly comfortable delivering the talk, thank goodness.

Stephanie O Design is a rising star based out of Denver, CO. Her vibrant shirtdress is anything but
traditional. Bold colors and sensual arm slits create a look that’s 
simultaneously professional and fresh.

I’d like to give a huge shout of gratitude to Lisa Cypers Kamen and the entire TEDx Malibu team (Sarah Stephens, Corey Jenkins, the amazing crew, and all the volunteers) for believing in me and giving me the opportunity. The energy of this group is wonderful to behold.


Is there an area of your life in need of the Rx of “Perfect Vulnerability”? I’d love to hear about it!